Can You Share Reminders on iPhone?

The bins go out on Tuesday, the car needs its service in March, and somebody has to book the dentist. You want the other person in the house to see the same list without forwarding screenshots back and forth.

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The short answer: yes, but you share a list, not a single reminder

Yes. The built-in Reminders app on iPhone can share a whole list with other people. Everyone who accepts the invitation sees the same reminders, and Apple says they can add items, delete items and mark items as completed. You can also assign a reminder in a shared list to one person. Apple's steps all start from a list, so to share one task on its own, put it in a small list of its own and share that.

Three conditions decide whether it works:

• Everyone uses iCloud. A shared list lives in iCloud Reminders, so the people you invite need an Apple Account with Reminders turned on in iCloud.
• Everyone is on iOS 13 or later. Apple requires iOS 13 or later for shared lists, for you and for each person you invite. At the time of writing the current iPhone version is iOS 27.2, released on 26 October 2026.
• Alerts stay personal. In Apple's words, "Notifications that you set for your reminders aren't shared with anyone else." A shared list shares the items, not the buzz on your phone.

If the person you want to share with does not use an iPhone or iCloud, a shared Reminders list will not reach them. A public iCloud calendar can (see sharing a calendar instead).

How to share a reminders list on iPhone

These are Apple's steps for the built-in Reminders app:

1. Open Reminders and tap the list you want to share.
2. Tap the Share button.
3. Choose a contact, or an app such as Messages or Mail, and send the invitation.

The other person has to accept the invitation before the list appears on their devices. Until then, nothing changes for them.

What the other person can do with a shared list

Once they accept, Apple says invitees can add items, delete items and mark items as completed. Everyone sees the same list, so a ticked-off "buy cat food" is ticked off for the whole household.

Assign a reminder to one person

In a shared list you can say whose job something is:

1. Tap the reminder in the shared list.
2. Tap the Assignment button in the quick toolbar.
3. Choose a person, then tap Done.

To change it later, tap the name next to the reminder and choose Reassign or Remove Assignment. Assignment only works in a list that is already shared. On iOS 17 or later you can also set an Early Reminder for an assigned task, so a notification comes before it is due.

Control who else gets in, and take people out

Apple's Reminders guide for the Mac describes the sharing controls: by default the people you invite can invite others too, and you can switch that off with Allow others to invite. Removing one person with Remove Access takes the list off all of that person's devices. Stop Sharing removes the list from every participant's devices, so warn people before you use it.

Notifications in a shared list

Sharing a list does not share its alarms. If you set a reminder for 7 PM on Friday in a shared list, the 7 PM notification goes to you. Apple states that notifications you set are not shared with anyone else. The other person sees the reminder in the list, but their phone does not buzz for your alert.

What you can turn on is a heads-up when the list changes:

1. Open the shared list and tap the Collaborate button.
2. Tap Manage Shared List.
3. Turn notifications on or off for Adding Reminders and Completing Reminders.
4. Tap Done.

If notifications from Reminders do not arrive at all, look at the phone's settings rather than the list. Why iPhone reminders stop going off walks through the settings to check, in order.

When a shared list does not show up

Apple's notes on upgraded reminders fill in the details. Shared lists need both the list creator and the people who view it to have upgraded, and a list shared with someone on older software may not work until they update. Devices that are not on iOS 13, macOS 10.15 Catalina, watchOS 6 or later cannot see upgraded reminders. Outlook through iCloud for Windows cannot show iCloud reminders, but a browser at iCloud.com can.

To check that Reminders is on in iCloud, Apple gives the path Settings > [your name] > iCloud > Saved to iCloud > Reminders. Ask the other person to check the same switch on their phone.

If you used Family Sharing's family list in the past: Apple says it becomes a standard shared list once the family organizer upgrades, and from then on you can invite anyone, including people outside the family.

Sharing a calendar instead

Sometimes the thing you want to share is not a checklist but a set of dates: when the boiler service is, which week the car insurance renews, when rent is due. A shared iCloud calendar can be a good fit for that, and it has one advantage over Reminders: a public calendar link can be viewed by people who do not use iCloud.

Share a calendar with specific people

Apple's current iCloud.com guide, which works in any browser including Safari on iPhone:

1. Sign in at icloud.com/calendar.
2. Open the calendar's info panel with the info button next to its name.
3. Add each person's email address under Sharing With.
4. For each person, choose Allow editing (they can create, edit and delete events) or Read-Only (they can view but not edit).
5. Save your changes.

People invited this way need an Apple Account and iCloud to use the calendar. In the Calendar app itself, Apple's guide (written for iOS 15) gives the same idea: tap Calendars, tap the info button next to the iCloud calendar, tap Add Person, and later tap the person's name to turn Allow Editing on or off or to Stop Sharing. Button names can differ slightly in newer versions.

Share a public, view-only link

Turn on Public Calendar for the calendar, then send the link. Apple says anyone with the link can view and subscribe, even without iCloud, and only the owner can make changes to a public calendar. That makes it the route for a partner or a flatmate on a different kind of phone.

Where Remi fits

Remi is a personal reminder app. It has no shared lists, no assigning and no account to invite anyone into, so for a household to-do list that several people tick off, use a shared list in the built-in Reminders app as described above.

What Remi can do is put your plans where someone else can see them. Remi's calendar sync copies your reminders into a calendar you choose, and if that calendar is a shared iCloud calendar, the people it is shared with see the copies too. It is useful for the loose plans Remi is built for: "book the dentist, mid October" shows up as an all-day event across the 11th to the 20th, so the other person can see the window without you inventing a date. More on loose dates in reminders for sometime next month.

1. Share an iCloud calendar with the other person (see sharing a calendar instead), or ask them to share one with you with editing allowed.
2. In Remi, tap the … menu, choose Settings, then Calendar sync.
3. Switch on Sync to Calendar and allow calendar access when iOS asks.
4. Under Destination calendar, pick the shared calendar. Remi only lists calendars it is allowed to write to, so a calendar shared with you as read-only will not appear.

Know the limits before you rely on it:

• It is one-way. Remi writes to the calendar; the calendar never changes Remi. If the other person edits or moves one of these events, Remi replaces it with its own version the next time it syncs.
• Only dated plans travel. Exact dates and Early, Mid, Late or Anytime reminders become all-day events. Someday reminders and completed ones are not copied. A repeating reminder appears as its next occurrence only.
• It updates on its own. Remi syncs whenever you add, edit, complete or delete a reminder. Switching sync off removes every event Remi created.

Calendar sync is part of the free app. For repeating household things like rent or bills, see how to set a monthly reminder on iPhone.

Which option fits

One more thing worth doing for your own reminders, shared or not: keep the next few where you will see them. A reminders widget on the Home Screen puts them in view every time you unlock the phone.

Updated 2026-11-02. Written by Emils Ozols, who makes Remi.